Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Letters from Egypt: To be a Virgin or Not?



As the debate rages on about the new Chinese device, Gigimo, a cheaper version of the surgery that allots for a woman to appear a virgin on her wedding night by secreting a blood-like substance, many in Egypt are in an uproar over the product (that is supposedly sold in Syria for a meager $15).

A few thoughts before I mention Mona Eltahawy’s blog and the actual NPR article I posted on Facebook a few weeks ago.

First of all, we all know it’s hypocritical on all accounts. I have never met a group of people that have more sex than Egyptians, let me rephrase that, Egyptian men. And if you think about arguing, let me try to counter your points before you even go there:

“In lower class Egyptian society, they really are deprived.” Maybe as my Arabic isn’t good enough to associate with that class, but if you take the Dahab Bedouins, Nuweiba residents, etc. – I’m pretty sure you will find VERY sexually active individuals (and don’t blame the influx of foreigners to these places because there are Egyptian women that succumb to the sweet talking that only Egyptians know how to do the best. I don’t think anyone considers most of the aforementioned to be “upper class.”

However, in my own observations, the supposed “upperclass” individuals still want to marry a virgin. I mean ladies, you should be looking at the bright side, at least they should know what exactly they’re doing in bed and of course, should prepare you for when he cheats on you. I mean after all, he only cheats to get better to instruct you. Silly women, how dare you complain?

But you know, it’s the same no matter where you go – just on a different caliber. Women will always be held to a different standard. For the age-old example, the view of a woman that has had multiple partners as opposed to a man. Man = “popular” while a woman = “slut.” However, I’ve met plenty of females in my day that were so-called virgins and let me tell you, nothing was sacred about them! You can still be tainted no matter if your hymen is present or absent.

My main point is what if you fell in love? Does love not exist anymore because if it did, then all you should be concerned with is that you’re the one right now – and of course that your partner doesn’t have any sexually transmitted diseases, but I digress. Culture and religion is one thing, but demanding a woman is a virgin when you’re not held to the same standard is preposterous.

So Egyptians are worried about promiscuity. Dear Muslim Brotherhood – a little too late on that end. Now you have women wearing the higab (head scarf) just as a fashion statement and soon, wearing the gigimo just because you’ve imposed such restrictions. Looks like the pot calling the kettle black to me. You reap what you sew and I say that if a woman wants to have sex before marriage, let her go. Lord knows the rest of you do.

*Disclaimer – protection should be used at all times in order to avoid unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases such as Syphilis and AIDs because you will never know where a man has been and vice versa.*

 
Mona Eltahawy’s blog: Hot and Bothered Over Fake Hymens